In A New, More Fractured Light

20170118_013754I hate Krithika Ramesh. I hate my only sibling Krithika Ramesh because she is brutally honest, punctual, overbearing, and too perfect.

I love Krithika Ramesh. I love my only sibling Krithika Ramesh because she is brutally honest, punctual, overbearing, and too perfect.

I hate her. I love her. Hate. Love. Love. Hate. That’s our ever-oscillating relationship for you.

What is constant in our relationship though is that she loves me even when she wants to hate me. 😉 I admit that sometimes she wants to chop me up, fry me in an enormous oil pan, and feed me to sharks, because of my self-obsession. However, she is one of my favourite angels. If I ever murder somebody and seek asylum in her house, perhaps she would wail like a banshee when I break the news to her. But she would protect her little sister come what may.

I can always, always trust her; she is a badass that way. *Deepika swallows her ego* 😉

20170118_013637My dearest sister turns 35 tomorrow (January 19). As she has now become an Instagram celebrity, I expressed my desire to interview her for my blog. She agreed. Quite generously. 🙂 Do you follow her Instagram account? If you are a foodie, you must. (Krithi, you love me now, don’t you?)

Since I am a fan of Proust Questionnaire, I have employed it to know more about my sister whom I have known for 29 years.

My dear reader, here is Krithika Ramesh:

1. Your idea of happiness
Adding value to my loved ones’ lives. If they come to me, seeking my help, I try to give my best to make them happy. It could be as simple as helping them with a tiny idea or organising a party for them. Lighting up their lives makes me happy.

2. Your idea of misery
Change. Change in any form. Change of place. Change in people’s attitude. It’s difficult for me to go with the flow. It makes me depressed and I understand that it’s my fault to feel stuck. I have to learn to let go and embrace changes.

3. Where would you like to live?
Wherever my loved ones are. Although I live in the USA, I strongly reckon that I don’t belong here. I feel like I am living in a hotel. I want to live in Mylapore or anywhere in Chennai. That’s my home. I belong there.

4. What is your greatest fear?

20170118_0136185. What is the principal aspect of your personality?
Bossy. Of course, in a positive way. I am told that I can lead wherever I go. For instance, when I host an event, I can make my audience, laugh, talk, and play along with me. When something is not organised, I can gather resources effortlessly to put things in order.

6. What do you hate the most?
Insincerity. If I am not comfortable with somebody, I tell that person that I am not okay. I expect the other person to be honest with me too. Be who you are.

7. If not yourself, who would you be?
Somebody who is cooler than me. Somebody who is less emotional than me.

8. What is your present state of mind?
I am looking forward to celebrating my birthday, my wedding anniversary, and visiting India. I am always looking forward to celebrating something.

9. How would you like to die?
With no regrets. I dread waking up with regrets. So if I am going to die, I want to die with the content that I did all that I could for my family and friends.

20170118_01373810. What is your favourite motto?
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Even if I watch a movie with my son Shravan, I show a lot of enthusiasm by dressing up well, reaching the theatre on time, enjoying the movie with him, and making efforts to create memories. If I choose a present for my favourite people, I enter their heads. I think about what can bring bright smiles to their faces. When they finally receive their presents, they are naturally thrilled. In that unassuming moment lies my life’s purpose.


Krithi, thank you for granting this interview. 😉 I am sure you will make a lot of beautiful memories this year. And I am super sure that you will send me more presents. Yaaay!

20170118_013712Also, Be more silly, Krithi. Have more fun. Be more creative. Be more kind. Be more effusive. Above all, be yourself. Unapologetically yourself!

“The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light. Look hard. Risk that.”

Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed

PS: I love you! And I am always grateful to you for seeing me in a new, more fractured light. Thank you for looking hard and risking that. ❤


23 thoughts on “In A New, More Fractured Light

  1. Thank you Deeps.I completely enjoyed doing this interview and when I read it in your words it was even more interesting.Thank you so much for creating a wonderful memory on my 35th birthday 🙂 I will cherish this forever.

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  2. Aww that was a sweet interview and your sister is beautiful. I hope she has a wonderful birthday.
    And I can relate to the oscilliating hate-love feeling toward your sibling. I think it’s how most of us feel toward our family members. When I returned to Jamaica last year for a family reunion, we all (somehow) slept at my grandparents home for a night. We didn’t get to bed until about 2 or 3am because we spent the majority of the night arguing with each other and then making up and laughing about it. Lol. Then we woke up and started again. It was frustrating and fun.
    “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” <- I gotta agree with that.

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  3. I am not on Instagram but I am in love with your sister already. There’s a santoor soap add that goes- inki twacha se to inki umar ka pata hi nahi lagta, your sister should be the brand ambassador of that.
    Looks very graceful in her saris and everything. Wish I could be as charismatic and enthusiastic as your sister after 6 years.
    Interview her about her diet, exercise regime and what she does to be like that

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  4. Krithika: Very crisp and clear answers da.. I know how deep you love your family and friends. Happy that I’m part of both 😉 Advance birthday wishes da. COME HOME SOON!!. Beautiful writing by Deeps..

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